Happy Birthday Mom!
I wish I wasn’t so far away. I wish that you could be here with us just this one night. I told the kids that it was your birthday today and they were like…
“Grandmother!?! Why isn’t she here then?!?!!
“She’s such a good dancer!”
“I wish she could come here to dance.”
“When is she coming again Maggie?”
Today was Big Nisha’s birthday too. Remember how we called you last year and sang Happy Birthday? It was one of Nisha’s first nights here and we had just finished the downstairs and moved in. You told Nisha what a lucky birthday she had. Yesterday Sagar announced that it was his birthday too. I figured he was just making that up and so we all went into the office and dug out his file to look on his birth certificate. His birthday was 3 weeks ago. I told him that we missed it and that I was sorry and that we’d celebrate it today with Nisha and make one big party. He was thrilled.
Kate’s in London and Libby’s in New Zealand, and I’m here in Nepal. Mom, you taught us to be strong, independent, and confident. I remember you taught me the word intuition when I was like 6 years old and would sit quietly with me and teach me how to listen – listen oh so very carefully. You taught us not to live in fear, to see the upside of everything, and to learn from our mistakes. You told us that this earth was ours, to travel, to touch, to treasure. You taught us to respect others, respect ourselves, respect our bodies. You told us that when we see differences in other people it probably means we have something to learn from them. You’ve given us the best, best childhoods a kid could ask for, put both Kate and Libby through college and supported me these past 4 years on my travels around the world. You told me yes, yes, yes. You trusted me. This home would not be here without you and neither would these children.
Now you have three grown daughters, on three different continents. I know what other people always say to you. I know what they say because I’ve heard them before. “As a mother, how do you sleep at night? How could you let them do that? I would never ever let my child do that.”
But I know you better. I know you wouldn’t want things any other way, three strong young women on three different continents, living life to the fullest.
Happy Birthday Mama. I miss you.